Still running...

Its been 18 months since I began my commitment to run at least one mile EVERY DAY. I am happy to report that I am still running every day. On weekends or during trips I always take the opportunity to run more than a mile and have ran up to ten miles on some of those days. I have fit in a few half marathons as well. Running in a suburb of Dallas, TX on an 80 degree day was wonderful. The weather at home has not been terrific for outdoor running but any window of opportunity where there is sunshine and/or a decent temperature I will be outside for a run.

Adoption STAR and The Reed Family

Reed baby makes dream come true
By Peter Simon
News Staff Reporter

Buffalo Firefighter Mark P. Reed lost his right leg and was in a coma for 31 days after a chimney collapsed on him while he was fighting an arson fire nearly three years ago.

But the accident never weakened his desire to be a father.

That dream — deferred but not derailed — came true last month, when Reed and his wife, Nancy, adopted newborn Connor Michael Reed, a mild-mannered and inquisitive young man with a full head of wavy hair.

The story of the newly expanded Reed family is one of determination, focus and optimism in the face of adversity.

“The bottom line is that life is what you make of it,” said Nancy Reed, an intensive care nurse at South Buffalo Mercy Hospital. “We wanted to pursue our dream. This was our dream.”

The couple was in the process of adopting a child when Reed was severely injured as he tried to take a hose line through the side door of a vacant Wende Street house torched by a 15- year-old youth in June 2007. He suffered a skull fracture, 35 broken bones, a punctured lung and a brain bleed. Reed was given last rites three times.

Parenthood would have to wait.

“I called the [adoption] agency and told them: ‘You’ve got to put us on hold,’ ” Nancy Reed said.

Mark Reed, now 39, emerged from the coma, got out of the hospital after 52 days, underwent extensive rehabilitation and learned to get around with a computerized prosthesis.

“It was a struggle, but my wife pushed me all the time,” Reed said.

Even during the toughest stretches, adoption remained a goal.

“It was always in the back of our minds,” said Nancy Reed, 42. “We never lost sight of it. It’s an emotional roller coaster, but you never give up hope.”

Meanwhile, the Reeds made enormous progress on other fronts.

Mark Reed volunteers as an ambulance dispatcher in Lancaster-Depew, serves on the Lancaster-Depew emergency management team and volunteers in the trauma unit at Erie County Medical Center, where he was a patient.

“I’m not going to be able to go back to the firehouse, but I’ll always be a firefighter,” he said.

Still, questions remained. Would Mark have the stamina and strength to be an active father? Would the Lancaster couple’s relationship remain strong through the stress of the injuries? Would parenthood retain its appeal?

The answers came through loud and clear: Yes, yes and yes.

If anything, the Reeds’ determination to be parents grew even stronger. It was a goal, an impetus, that helped them work through their adversity.

“We wanted to be absolutely sure we could function again as a family,” Nancy Reed said. “We took a deep breath, looked at each other and said: ‘We’re ready to go.’‚”

Their adoption process was reactivated by Adoption STAR, an agency based in Williamsville. In February, an expectant mother, motivated in large measure by media accounts of the Reeds’ courage and strength, chose them as her child’s prospective adoptive parents.

Within minutes, the Reeds accepted.

“It was euphoric,” Nancy Reed said. “Not only that he’s such a beautiful child, but that someone chose us. Someone entrusted their child to us. It’s ‘Wow!’ I don’t have any words but ‘Wow!’ ”

Connor, who watched quietly as his parents were interviewed for this story at Adoption STAR, is fascinated by a ceiling fan in his house but sometimes raises a squawk when it’s time for a bath.

“We just stare at him all the time,” Nancy Reed said. “It’s a great feeling, every second. He’s the best thing that ever happened to us.”

Connor never lacks for attention. His parents talk to him, read children’s books to him and already tell him about his adoption.

“We want him to grow up healthy, strong and confident about himself,” Nancy Reed said. “We want him to know who he is.”

Nancy Reed used to watch other parents with their kids and feel a nagging fear that she might never be a mother.

Now, she says through tears of joy, “We can put Connor on the bus to school and teach him how to ride a bike.”

Connor’s adoption clicked instantly, said Michele Fried, the founder and chief executive officer of Adoption STAR. It was the 400th adoption arranged by Adoption STAR in the agency’s 10th year of operation.

“This was love at first sight,” Fried said of the Reeds’ adoption. “It was something they were so ready for. They truly are one of the most appreciative couples we’ve ever met.”

While Mark’s accident delayed their adoption, the strength the Reeds summoned as a couple will bolster their parenting skills, Fried said.

“What they went through has prepared them to be stronger parents for whatever parenthood might bring,” Fried said. “I have no doubt they’ll be there every step of the way.”

After taking some time off from her nursing duties, Nancy Reed will return to work at Mercy Hospital and Mark Reed will be a stay-at-home dad.

“My No. 1 priority is being a father,” he said. “This is the reason we’re here — to take care of this little guy.”

13.1 Miles...

On Sunday, February 21, I ran a half marathon. It was certainly not my first as years ago, half marathons were my favorite past time... and running 10 plus miles was my typical weekend run. But February 21 was really a first in many ways... the longest run since 2006 and finally being able to accomplish a half marathon again! I ran the entire race rather than what I was prepared for... walking/running... I did prepare by training (mostly with Yale) and spent my weekends increasing my mileage up to 10 miles. Of course I continued and still continue to run one mile a day every day... and it is amazing how that little mile has helped me prepare for where I am today.

I am most impressed with my children. This was Yale's first half marathon... he ran the entire thing. (He and I signed up for the Buffalo half marathon last May and walked most of the way. We had hoped to walk/run it, but I had intense knee pain and was unable to.) This was Eden's fourth half marathon and she gets stronger every one.

Compared to my half marathon history, this was by far my slowest race. But for me, it wasn't a race. It was a long run... a beautiful run... with a really cool medal at the end of it!

I can't stop smiling when I think about how perfect the day was, the weather, the scenery, the experience, running with my family, the accomplishment. I can't help but being proud of my children and of course myself as I keep on thinking, "I did it!"

100+ days have gone by!

On January 25th, I ran 100 consecutive days! That does not equal 100 miles as my weekends have included some "longer" runs.

A new treadmill has filled our work-out room and that makes running inside more pleasing for me as it never was my favorite thing to do.

I have my eye on a half marathon in Ft. Lauderdale that I hope I can complete... working toward it... so far so good!

Logging lots of miles

Last week I ran 15 miles, still logging in at least one mile every day. This week (Sunday) I began the week with what was supposed to be a 6 mile run with Yale and it turned into an almost 9 mile run, which shocked us both but was thoroughly enjoyable. Yale is terrific to run with. We stay together and talk, talk, talk... about everything. It makes the time go by. In addition, it was snowing and the longer we ran, the harder it snowed... it was beautiful and we both felt great. Monday's mile was easy and able to be outside. Today's mile didn't happen yet even though I usually run in the morning. Soooo cold outside. Only 15 degrees. It may be a treadmill mile later in the afternoon.

I have had off and on knee pain while running since this summer, and it has only gotten worse since the weather has turned so cold. Even when I am not running, I have experienced knee pain due to the cold. I recently tried different knee braces. The ones I like the best is a thin knee band that straps directly under the knee. I have one for both knees now and I find that it really helps.

I also run with calf sleeves (compression stockings) that I purchased at a running fair in West Palm. They are supposed to not only help keep your legs warm, but also improve blood circulation and blood flow, allowing runners to run longer and faster. In addition, they promise to offer support to the calf and shins, reducing the likelihood of shin splints. They are comfortable to wear and I like them. I have even worn them while running a mile on the treadmill.

I am excited to have logged in more than 70 consecutive days of running... certainly a first for me!

Treadmill time!

Well, it's true... I have had a few of my miles spent on the treadmill. It is shocking for me but the weather outside has been extra cold and slippery and when it takes more than ten minutes to get dressed for the outside run and just ten minutes to run a mile... it seems to make sense to simply throw on those shorts and running bra and hit the treadmill.

I did sneak an outdoors mile in yesterday morning... 19 degrees but the sun was shining and that's all it takes for me!

On December 5th I ran a 5k in Florida with Yale and Chuck ran it with Nobie. It was a beautiful cooler day for Florida... just perfect for a 3.1 mile run.

And so I keep running... mostly in the morning, once in awhile in the evening. I love when Yale or Chuck or Nobie join me. Eden hasn't joined me since the very first mile I ran making this one mile everyday for one year crazy commitment! Eden is training for another half marathon along with a friend.

I would love to run that half marathon too... still thinking about that one...

and 3.1 miles too!

On Saturday, November 7, Yale, Nobie, Chuck and I ran a 5k to benefit the work of CAFFA (Coalition of Adoption and Foster Family Agencies.) It was a beautiful, sunny day. Nobie was amazing. She ran the race in under 35 minutes... she never walked once! Yale took off on his own and ran ahead of us while Chuck and I stayed with Nobie. I will be honest, Nobie's pace was just fine with me!

So my one mile for Saturday ended up being a 5k... as much as I enjoyed that distance, I am going to stick with the one-milers and not push it as reaching my goal of one mile a day every day for one year is important to me.

I shared this "goal" with three non-family members last week. I guess it makes it all the more real... yikes!

I am truly enjoying my little daily run. I can walk 13 miles but at the end I don't want to throw up my arms and shout "yeah!" For some reason after a one-mile run, I feel like I am running through the finish line and all I can do is smile.